When I own my home I shall be Happy
When I buy my new Car I shall be Happy
When I loose a stone I shall be Happy
When I live someplace sunny I shall be Happy
Do you remember how long your happiness lasted when you got your new car? Was it a Day a Week a Month, did it then become just a car and your happiness levels went right back down to where they normally sit?
Seeking happiness from outside sources may seem like a good idea or even the only idea but without working on yourself from the inside then your happiness levels will always go back to the level they were at before and if that wasn’t a great level then you could be in for some dark days.
Here are a few tips to help you out
Don’t waste your time chasing happiness you’re looking in the wrong place and missing the joy of now. Learn to enjoy the scenery as you travel through your days. Life on this planet is a never ending story.
Stop sitting and waiting
You can’t sit back and wait for the perfect moment. What if it never comes?
You might be waiting for life to really begin, but first there’s obstacles and hurdles to get past. Or there’s something else that needs to be done before you can really get going.
There’s a big surprise in store for you, when you wake up one morning and discover those challenges and obstacles and things that needed doing first, were in fact your life.
And you’ll have used up your precious time waiting. Don’t do this to yourself.
Jump into life with both feet and take a chances. Get yourself a dream, because your dream creates your actions and your actions make up your life.
Enjoy the ride
If you’ve been going through life avoiding as many negative emotions as possible, I’ve got news for you. It doesn’t help. And it probably hurts.
Emotions are messengers, sent to remind us of what we’re doing or thinking. They’re trying to get your attention.
Give the messenger a chance by allowing the feeling. You don’t have to wallow in bad breaks or nasty break-ups, but you do need to give yourself permission to feel unhappy or sad and scared.
Life will always be up and down. Feel the feelings, then move on and enjoy the ride. Don’t ever allow the hurts and pains of life to stick around because they’re waiting to be felt. Let them in and let them go.
If you realized how powerful your feelings were you’d allow them in and release them as soon as you could. Get this step right, so you can move forward.
Find the strength within
Failure isn’t horrifying, or something to be ashamed of, no matter what you’ve been told. It doesn’t mean you don’t measure up, but that you’re stretching yourself beyond your current limits.
It’s a winning game plan for life and frees you from the exhaustion of perfectionism.
Look at the lightbulb man thomas edison – he failed thousands of times before the light turned on, he never looked upon each one as a failure, just getting closer to the goal.
A child when learning to walk doesn’t try a few times then give up, no they keep on falling down until they can do it.
Remember those who never make a mistake, rarely make anything at all. And even if you never learn to love failure, don’t let that stop you from being like most of the great ones in life, who failed their way to success. It worked for them and it can work for you.
Be of service
By being yourself. The greatest gift you can give the rest of us is to walk your talk. Be honest with where you are. So you’re having a crappy day. Fine. Have people around you that you can be honest with.
Sometimes letting people support you is all you need to get back on track.
And do the same for others. Encourage them. Raise them up. Show them how valuable and necessary they are in our world.
Each one of us has something unique to bring to life, some special role to play. Don’t hide behind a mask of ‘how I should be’. The only ‘should’ that matters is that you be totally, brilliantly you.
I used to always think people would think I was shit to be around if I wasn’t happy but now I realise who really gives a toss. It is ok to have down times, just don’t stick around in downtown city, get your ass back up and slap that smile on.
Get it done.
Is getting something done. Letting things pile up… be they unfinished projects, or unpaid bills or unspoken resentments, is a surefire way to step into a state of overwhelm. And nothing good comes out of overwhelm.
Invest a little time every night to save a lot of time every day.
Each night before bed decide on the most important things to be done tomorrow. And write them down, as though they were accomplished.
‘I’m really happy and grateful now that….I finished that project that’s been hanging over my head….I had that conversation I’ve been putting off for weeks…I set up those appointments I’ve been procrastinating about’.
Read them before falling asleep at night and you’ll be doing what many of the great inventors did, using your subconscious mind to work on your behalf while you sleep.
Create your own reality
When the day is over let it go. Mistakes might have been made. You did the best you could. And if you didn’t, tomorrow is waiting, fresh and new and filled with possibility. Don’t carry the nonsense of yesterday into tomorrow.
New experiences are waiting. But they exist only as possibilities as long as you think ‘of them’. They become overpoweringly real when you think ‘from them’ as though they already were.
You have been given the power of imagination. Use it.
Experience in your imagination what you wish were happening in your life, and as you successfully heighten your ability to use your imagination, you’ll discover this inner, invisible world to be the source of your reality; you’ll be living from your highest self.